tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-239979082024-03-13T07:10:56.662-05:00The Daddy Bar ReturnsThere was a name change, but I don't feel like messing with the URL too. So, the old name is back.Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.comBlogger168125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-20729912859788344812011-09-29T16:37:00.007-05:002011-09-29T16:57:53.959-05:00Just In Case...I haven't been doing much writing on this site, but this is the best place to point people who find me through Ignite DC. So, if my talk is why you're here, I want to make it easy for you to read the more relevant posts.To read my thoughts and experiences with loss, go here.To read just about Eva, loss included, go here.More recently, I found myself commenting on another blog and writing things Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-49144024655973192172010-11-05T15:15:00.004-05:002011-09-29T16:22:40.951-05:00Instantaneous KneecappingI think I am mostly over the loss of my daughter, but I think it is just as likely that I never really began grieving in the first place - I just moved on because it felt like somebody had to. So, it should really come as no surprise that I can be moved back to that time, what it felt like to have the future hanging in the balance or to simply spend every waking moment wanted to be dead, by Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-58406556520810720212010-10-26T07:19:00.006-05:002010-10-26T10:56:16.411-05:00On The Right Track?In my post about trying to determine where to buy clothes that do not undermine or go against one's own values, I mentioned how difficult it is to know much of anything at all about the clothing - where it was made, the corporate policies behind it, the company's own values (if they really have any), etc. I do know that the time to find this stuff out is not when you are in the outlet mall, Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-56126515842651435332010-10-12T07:56:00.002-05:002010-10-12T10:19:42.226-05:00A New Equation for Capital PunishmentI am no student of criminal justice or the law, although I sometimes find ethical and legal arguments to be pretty interesting. While have an on-going internal monologue this morning, I found myself chewing on the application of capital punishment to what are currently considered non-capital offenses. More specifically, it occurred to me that it seems entirely reasonable to consider the use of Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-47831117800147703762010-10-06T09:53:00.003-05:002010-10-06T11:48:20.493-05:00Moral ConsumptionI cannot avoid buying things, although I'd like to. I wish I never had need of another pair of pants or shirt or shoes again. But, I will clearly need to buy some, if not for myself then definitely for my children. But, I hate the fact that the clothes that are most affordable are so clearly linked to a horrendous global supply chain that has all sorts of ramifications I'm not cool with. In Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-19251904641494089312010-10-06T09:52:00.003-05:002011-09-29T16:22:40.951-05:00Off the TrailsSo, in a recent span of four weeks, I effectively lost the three most important male influences in my life. Not necessarily role models because some of what influenced me was witnessing what not to do, but certainly the most influential people on my life Two through death and one through what I will loosely call exposure therapy.My best friend's father died in mid August. He had cancer, but Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-49714536414354135862010-10-04T22:39:00.003-05:002011-09-29T16:22:40.952-05:00What Does One Deserve?I'd like to believe that everyone gets what they deserve, good or bad. That those who work hard are rewarded, that those who are lazy only miss out. That opportunity and fortune is only bestowed on those who plan, prepare, and put out enormous effort. That those who are respected have earned it, that those who have authority have shown the capacity to handle it.I'd like to believe in karma. Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-31831631019927557632010-09-29T23:57:00.002-05:002010-09-30T00:19:35.716-05:00Personal HistoryWhen my wife was pregnant with our first born, I had a fear that I would die before he arrived. So, I started writing down everything I thought I'd want to share with him in the off chance that I did not get to do it in person. It was supposed to be a diary or a memoir that he could read in the future, filled with stories and all the details of my life. I wrote about 3 or 4 pages and that was Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-90107045899994209502010-03-29T21:15:00.002-05:002010-03-29T21:18:12.990-05:00Slow Going...But GoingSo, I had one good day and then it was up and down. Good day here, bad day there. Too much work, a little tired, a little extra snacking...no working out. Working out, eating right, getting some sleep...kid wakes up in middle of the night with a bed full of pee. Night shot, tired next day, bad eating, no working out. Repeat.But, I've now had three days in a row that are decent. Better Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-6353681321797312862010-03-15T12:45:00.002-05:002010-03-15T13:33:12.095-05:00Long Time...AgainI have yet again gone through a huge lapse in blogging. I don't think anyone reads this, so it shouldn't really matter. But, even if nobody comes here, this does provide me a place to try and hold myself accountable. And, I have some things to account for again.Oh, and this will bore you if you have heard anything I've said in the past. I'm back on the running and weight and health thing, Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-38505585195964653012009-07-01T08:27:00.003-05:002009-07-01T08:47:02.456-05:00When I Was A Fat Slob...I used to be really fat. Morbidly obese, I think. You know, like 75 pounds or more than is even remotely good for me based on my height. As of my most recent weight, I am 90 pounds less than I was six years ago. It took about three years to lose the weight and I've kept it off for the most part since then. I have fluctuated, down ten pounds and up ten pounds, but I am usually right about theDavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-5633104884484425732009-07-01T08:24:00.002-05:002009-07-01T08:26:58.171-05:00Health UpdatesHealth or fitness, which is really the more accurate term for what I've been concerned about lately. Basic update is that things got bad and then they got better. Audrey was out of town and I had a tough time doing anything other than handling the kids. So, no running and too much bad snacking. But, I've had two weeks of good running and some better control with the food and I've gotten back Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-21824043468319143762009-06-01T08:52:00.003-05:002009-06-01T09:01:04.992-05:00Being Nice or Being Honest?For some reason, a coworker of mine has put my name on a list to be surveyed by his MBA program. The survey is about him and I will have to rate him on 40 different questions that are supposed to help define his leadership abilities. The thing is that he is a buffoon. I'm not sure why he even put my name on the list and it makes me wonder what he thinks it is that I think about him. I've Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-44383031881685783062009-06-01T08:49:00.002-05:002009-06-01T08:52:04.119-05:00Two Weeks and Little to ShowThe good news is that I've been running consistently. But that is the only thing that I've been able to stick with so far. Sleep is up and down, partly because my job has been very stressful and I've had a lot of work to do in the evenings. And, as is always the case, when I'm up late, I eat at night. So, my snacking continues and I haven't lost a single pound. Still 180, despite running 38 Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-11097050033763283422009-05-14T12:37:00.002-05:002009-05-14T13:01:44.206-05:00How to Stay AccountableSo, one of the ways I've found to keep myself on track is to force myself into situations where I need to be accountable. Even if it is a bit artificial because nothing bad really happens if I'm not. For example, if I state some goal to a friend or my wife, then I feel on the hook to accomplish it. Otherwise, despite their love and support, I feel like I've failed and potentially disappointed Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-90130153334223787722009-05-14T08:43:00.003-05:002009-05-14T08:49:58.924-05:00Need A Format & UpdatesWell, it has been up and down since the weekend. I got up in the morning before work to run on Monday, something I haven't done in a long time. I also ran at lunch on Tuesday. But, my left knee was a little sore, so I didn't work out yesterday. And, while I thought I might get some exercise in today, it doesn't look likely at this point. I'll need to run for the next three days to hit a goalDavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-71711972587578954802009-05-10T08:21:00.001-05:002009-05-10T08:23:01.959-05:00One note on SaturdayI have to come up with a better format for this, but I got 7-7.5 hours last night too. Of sleep, that is. Yee hah! And I even watched "The Assassination of Jesse James by the Coward Robert Ford", which was fairly long. Good movie, by the way.Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-63709200554862462332009-05-10T08:15:00.003-05:002009-05-10T08:21:13.244-05:00Friday & SaturdaySo, we're making progress, friends.Thursday night I had 7.5 hours of sleep and Friday night I had 8. For me, that is a huge improvement. I am still tired, at least when life allows me to be tired, but I am feeling better. I needed the rest to finish getting over a sinus infection, which I am, and it has also helped me to not pass out when reading to the kids at bedtime.I also continued to eat Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-37975436621460084912009-05-08T07:28:00.004-05:002009-05-08T09:26:57.396-05:00First Day's ResultsSo, I wish I could say that I accomplished all of my goals, but progress was made. On the eating front, I did pretty well. Ate light during the workday, as I usually do, and had a decent dinner. Brown rice, indian packets from Trader Joe's, some naan, and followed up with watermelon (not quite in season, so it wasn't as sweet as it could be). What I didn't do is any after-dinner snacking at Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-44015318424324628992009-05-07T15:50:00.002-05:002009-05-07T15:55:45.845-05:00EDI think one of the reasons I stopped blogging was that it always seems like there is so much to say. I'm not running some small publishing empire or trying to create some advertising juggernaut so I can quit my day job. I don't know if it matters to me to have anyone even see this. Frankly, I just find this easier than writing in a journal. And, because I generally view blogging as a sort of Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-25129491627716427452009-05-07T09:04:00.002-05:002009-05-07T09:16:06.117-05:00UghIt has been a long, long, long time. Blogging sometimes seems like a chore, but I need to do something to handle the stuff in my head and the endless piles of notes I seem to make for myself.Let's start with a proclamation or a mid-year resolution. Eh, a set of resolutions. I have fallen off the wagon a bit. My running is junk, my sleep is bad, and my diet is horrendous. In other words, I'm Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-24828554959148154142008-09-08T08:45:00.000-05:002008-09-08T14:45:58.343-05:00Yes, I KnowIt has been a long time since writing and I don't have a great excuse. I have lots of things to say, but I've not found the urge to get over here and put thoughts to code. It is because I feel like there are always better things to do. But, it is also because I think I've been self censoring a bit. I figure that some people I know might read this and I don't want to write anything that will Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-9728319882491414222008-06-03T09:06:00.000-05:002008-06-03T09:22:33.853-05:00Mid-Year ResolutionsI think I need to come out with these since I'm not sticking to them without any sense of external pressure. So, I want to achieve the following things:1. Stop drinking diet soda. More specifically, avoid everything with artificial sweeteners. I've been pretty good about this the past few weeks. It has been almost three weeks since I last had a Diet Coke, so I feel good about this. I used Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-27956665657037879772008-05-20T23:23:00.001-05:002008-05-21T08:46:19.512-05:00Wegman's Ultimate Chocolate CakeI would normally expect something called the "Ultimate" to disappoint. It is like the old saying about never eating at a place called "Mothers" - it just won't be anything like she used to make. But, if you are the least bit curious about this particular cake, I can now say that it is worth a taste or two.Audrey and I had talked about buying one for months now, just to try it out. We both loveDavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23997908.post-85425467898494482942008-05-19T14:27:00.001-05:002008-05-19T14:32:04.932-05:00Great News!I saw the orthopedist this morning and got a clean bill of health. The results from the MRI show no sign of a lateral meniscus tear or any damage of any kind. There was a suggestion of some degeneration on the inside of my knee, but Dr. Zimmer said that MRIs are overly sensitive to that kind of thing and that there was nothing to worry about in his opinion. So, in the end, there is some Davehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10855891290933788158noreply@blogger.com0